Welcome back to Riding the Wave friends! <3
Hope you have had a good week!? Mine was definitely a better week than last.
For this weeks post I am going back in time too almost 2 years ago, wow that’s insane, to tell you all the life lessons going to University taught me.
Let’s get cracking…
1. How to be independent.
So, before I went to university if you asked me to describe myself I probably would of said that I was independent. Spoiler alert I was wrong.
I suppose I thought that just because I had a car, a weekend job and I.D that I was suddenly a full grown women and could make it on my own and wow I was a fool!
Moving to uni was hands down the scariest thing I had ever done!
Not because it was far away, I actually wanted to move far away. But because for the first time in my life I didn’t have anyone telling me what I was supposed to do. After I was dropped off and my family had left, I remember standing in my jail cell of a room and I wanted to throw up!
I can still remember that day clear as hell
Everything I ‘thought’ I knew about being an adult and all the advice that I had been given in the weeks leading up to me leaving for uni, went straight out the window. I knew nothing about life
Luckily for me, I wasn’t the only one! I feel like everyone was in the same boat.
I clinged onto my roommate for dear life in those first few weeks and we figured that s**t out together!
After the first term I found my footing, made some amazing friends, learnt how to budget my student loan, got a part time job, learnt how to cook oven food. I mean you kind of have to at uni.
But if I thought I was independent before I went to uni, I definitely was by the time I graduated!
2. Everything worthwhile takes work!
Not only was it hard trying to figure out how to live on your own, the course work itself was hard!
Graduation 2019 <3
Oh my god, I could cry thinking about it!
So, I studied Acting at the University for the Creative Arts, and yes that doesn’t sound like the hardest course in the world and you are right in a way. Sometimes it wasn’t that difficult at all, because I was doing something I loved and I was passionate about!
But, for the most part, it was exhausting! Physically and mentally.
I can’t speak to anyone else’s experience just mine.
However, struggling with anxiety and depression and then having to go into class everyday and be switched on and be present, then having to go home to do theory work or go to extra rehearsals, there was a point for me where it got too much! I think there was actually a few times it go too much for me.
But was it worth it when I walked across the stage and got handed my degree? 1000x YES!
3. You don’t have to be friends with everyone!
I wish I learnt this lesson sooner!
I used to waste so much time and energy trying to get people to like me or wondering why this person or that person didn’t want to be friends with me and I look back at that now and I just want to scream at myself!
It doesn’t matter how nice you are or how much effort you put in with people. There will always be people who just don’t like you, or don’t get on with you for whatever reason and that is perfectly okay.
You don’t have to please everyone, you don’t have to be friends with everyone. Just be kind and be yourself and the people that matter will love you and accept you for who you are! <3
Listen to everything you are told, be a sponge take in everything and expel what you don’t need.
Listening is the only way you will ever learn and grow! My boyfriend would still probably say I don’t listen but believe me I was worse!
It took me a long time at uni to learn how to truly listen to people. People are really f**king interesting when you actually listen to them.
5. Press the f**k it button
I have lost count at the amount of times I have walked away from something saying ‘oh I wish I did this’ or ‘I wish I said this’ because I was too scared to leave my comfort zone!
Life is more fun when you press the f**k it button
Second year performance ‘Night of the Iguana’
Like I am one of them people that will happily take a step back instead of putting myself on the line and that’s normal, I think most people do the same. No one likes to be embarrassed or do something wrong, but how do you learn and grow from not putting yourself forward
There are so many times I wished I just pressed the f**k it button and just let myself go!
6. Never stop exploring who you are.
Going to a creative arts uni was like a complete re-set of everything I thought I knew and liked! I really thought I knew who I was but uni knocked that idea straight out of my head.
Our uni was filled with art and so many creative people from all different walks of life. It forced you into different experiences and I found myself finding new hobbies or watching shows I would never watch (like old emily would never watch anime, now I love it)
I was so set in my ways and then all of a sudden I started to question why I had certain opinions or thought a certain way and then my opinions on things changed and I started to figure out who I was.
When you start to explore who you are, it’s like someone switches on a light. It is just so exciting and I wish I didn’t have to go to uni for me to learn this but oh well!
7. Soulmates aren’t always romantic connections.
Ok, so you may disagree with me on this but just hear me out.
I am a firm believer that you can have more than one soulmate and that they aren’t always a romantic connection! This isn’t me being like I love my best mates because of course I do that goes without saying.
But, what I am saying is, I bonded with some people that to me can only be described as finding my soulmates. Like, you know in winx club and they can all sense when each other is in danger it’s like that! Apart from the danger bit.
I literally don’t remember my life without my girls, it just feels like they have always been a part of my life and I know that they always will be! Here we are, we graduated in 2019 and I believe we are closer now and there is hundreds of miles between us.
Ok, I’m gonna stop now before I cry!
My winx club <3
8. Change is good!
Change is always going to happen, sometimes I wish it would because leaving uni was heart breaking, but, it’s important that things change. Life wouldn’t move on if thing didn’t change and you know, it makes you more resilient and adaptable. Change always makes you better!
9. It’s okay not to be okay.
why is it okay not to be okay? because you’re human duh!
You have feelings and you’re feeling are always valid no matter what they are or what situation you are in. You are only human and you don’t have to be okay all of the time, you will only end up feeling worse if you force yourself to hide you emotions.
Put yourself first and take time to be okay, okay!
10. Mental health always comes first!
This is my most important point!!!
I wish I knew how important mental health was a few years ago, I could of saved myself so much pain and suffering if I knew!
If you ever find yourself in times of trouble, please reach out to anyone! Don’t suffer in silence!
You matter and your mental health matters, so make sure you put yourself first <3
Dear future em!
Life is a bit up and down right now! I am not fully happy with how we are at the moment but it’s okay!
The past is hurting right now but that will pass, I mean it probably already has for you haha!
I hope you are doing better than I am right now!
I know I will be okay! Just got to keep going but writing these letters to you makes me feel a bit better!
Love, past em x